Sweatboxes, Prophylactics and Drinks

So this past weekend was pretty nice here in the city. I got a chance to do alot of housework that I had been neglecting and I also got a chance to just relax from the long workweek.

**Warning deviation ahead**
I failed to mention to you all that when the teachers union renegotiated their contracts last year around the time of the preemptive strike, that I am SO glad didn't happen BTW, there was a clause in the new contract that would cause the pay schedule to be offset by one week...which in turn caused us to not get paid on our normal payday, instead we went 3 weeks without a paycheck, and just lemme tell you...waiting another 7 days for a  paycheck IS not fun when you got mortgages and shit due!!...LOL

...so like I was saying, the weekend was good, I had time to relax and hang out with my god sister Ebonie. We were talking and just shooting the shit when I noticed her celly just kept on ringing. Each time it rings she looks at the phone in utter disgust and I ask her what's up...she looks at me and tells me this dude that she hung out with like twice keeps blowing her shit up....I also got introduced to a new word yesterday....

Sweatbox

adj

--Used to describe any and all persons that continuously call, text, email, or use any other form of communication to try to reach another person. This would include calling back repeatedly after messages have already been left. Term is usually used to describe what is now known as the new millennium "bug-a-boo", which was made so popular by the R & B group Destiny's Child.

...so I ask her what is up with dude and she begins to tell me she met dude a little while back and they talked on the phone a few times and decided to go see the fireworks at the Taste...ok that went well so they decide to go to dinner. Now lemme tell you one thing you all may not know....Edub is a diva...in every sense of the word...she truly believes in chivalry and the whole nine...basically you need to step your game up if you were a dude trying to holla...so anyway they decide to go to a nice spot downtown for dinner and drinks...making a long story short, when the check came he looks at the bill (which was only like $50 mind you) and got this look on his face like he didn't plan on coming up off that much change..lol So he pays the bill and leaves like a 5 dollar tip...hmmmmm

Customary tipping etiquette is 20% (Based on level of service of course)

.20 X $50.00= $10.00 tip

...so she looks at the tip and goes into HER purse to add another couple of dollars to the tip he left..

*crickets....*

Now you all tell me, how fuggin' embarrassing is THAT SHIT....on a second date? Someone I am trying to get to know better?...has to help out on the tip?...Oh.My.God.....I would be so outdone that at the end of the date, I would have to delete her number out of sheer humiliation!!

Why ask someone out when you know your funds aren't right? Or if you do, just suggest some inexpensive shit, or better yet, some FREE shit. Hell its the summertime in Chicago and there's lots of free shit to do that can save you from situations like that...but that's just me....

...and of course no weekend would be complete without a BBQ or two, so we hit up one that afternoon and during the course of a heated spades game the topic of sex came up. Now its 2005 folks and there are people STILL having unprotected sex with strangers....

**More Crickets.....**

I won't even comment on what was said at the table, just know that its REAL out here and I know it can be difficult and may not feel as good, but wrap it up or you may end up paying the price....

Happy Monday !!

Comments

[Nikki]

Your godsister's date reminds me of one I had not too long after I broke up with my ex. He'd told me I could order whatever I liked. "Spare no expense," is what he stated. But when the check came, he acted like he didn't wanna come outta pocket. Like his money was funny. He paid anyway, but he never saw me again. Dude got the instant block whenever he called my home and whenever he called the cell, he got routed to voicemail.

[Sis...]

Is this the "all i got is $11" dude?

Punk Biatch!

Anywho, just wanted to say good morning!

Oh and on the unprotected sex thing...why is this ALL i've been discussing with people this weekend! On Friday I saw the repeat of Oprahs interview with that DL dude. OMG! Let's just say I won't be having sex for a long friggin' time! My poor son had to deal with me going off on him and his friends about how IMPORTANT it is to protect yourself!

Sorry, here I go turning into Yolanda AGAIN! (Love ya girl!)

Peace...

[Yolanda]

*Walking up to podium, mouth agape* Why did "she" come in here calling me out? LOL If it weren't for the fact she was my PIB, I'd have to say something. *Moment of ephiphany* Come to think of it, I can't say shit because she's telling the truth. hehehe

Oh, sorry, Kel, this was supposed to be about you, right? LMAO

I hate when nuccas don't get a clue. And you know how I feel about not tipping appropriately. That's something Yolanda just DOES NOT do. I start them out at 20%. It's up to them whether they maintain, dip or climb higher.

I can't deal with a man who doesn't think likewise. Hell, he might start cutting corners with me (like half a nut, lmao), and we can't have that.

Okay, I'm getting long-winded here, I think it's time for me to make haste. LOL *Exiting stage-left*

[sun]

*smh* why won't people get it?

unprotected means just that You.Are.Unprotected!

[Mizz Kem]

Nah, Sis, the $11 dude was mine! LOL! Trife and he's a "sweatbox" too! That dude called me just yesterday and he's been told that ain't nuthin movin between us. If he didn't have the money, he should have left my black ass in the house that day! LOL!

[Mizz Kem]

Oh, and on the unprotected sex issue, I just don't understand why people don't believe "it" can happen to them. "It" represents a RANGE of physical diseases that can kill you, along with emotional dis-eases that can break you down! Either way, it's bad news to allow someone to enter your body without a protective barrier. I'm 3 months into a LONG road of "these-niggas-ain't-gettin-none-till-I-really-know-them-AND-we-get-tested-together" realness. I've seen people, people in my age group (25-35) get "caught up" and you have to wonder if their sharing that info with any new/potential partners! I Doubt it and that's what's scary...

[danja]

i dont have sex

QQn around...

[Dee]

makes a sistah not want to date at ALL!!!

recipe for the safest sex:

1 adult movie
2 double a batteries
3 adult beverages
LMAO

[Carol]

Safe sex....I dated this guy for like a month or two..then one night at his place things got a bit heated.

To put all my bidness out there...he and I were both butt-ass-naked...and about to get it on...when I realized he was making no movement or motion toward a condom in any direction. I asked him, "do you have a condom", he looked at me in a baffled way..very confused at the question. I repeated myself. He said, "no, do you". I replied, "no".

He looks at me and says, "dont worry I'll pull out".

It took all the strength in me not to curse this nigga out and run. So I politely gathered my things, put my clothes on and left.

Needless to say, he called me several times (he became somewhat of a sweatbox)....and no I never returned ANY of his calls.

Nasty mutha-somethin!

[Keish]

Lol...I've encountered my share of shock with my instantaneous departure after the no glove no love conversation. Any man who acts surprised to hear a request for protection is one that has HIV/AIDS and an assorted variety of diseases (Keish, 2005) so...I'll give my standard advice: RUNNNNNN....

[**RPM**]

Wow. The comments were just as engaging as the post. I love when that happens.

**RPM**

[Xquizzyt1]

Okay, I haven't read any comments... but umm... am I the only one that is searching your post for the prophylactics part of your post? Ummm... did you do that to trick me into reading it? LOL Boooooooooooooo I need to hear about some prophylactics!!!! LOL

[Xquizzyt1]

Was that it??? Just a remark that people are still having unprotected sex with strangers in 2005? Shit truth be told you don't need to be having unprotected sex with people you know either. Knowing those muthafuckas doesn't protect you from shit. LOL

[MsThing]

Tell it, X! Just because you're all familiar with a mofo shouldn't give you reason to stop protecting YOURSELF! It's all about ME! Everyone else and their feelings are secondary. I gotta look out for MsThing FIRST!

I'm glad your girl cut "Sweat Box" off. Some women would've considered that "helping a brother out" and continued to put up with him for years just for the sake of having him around and being able to have unprotected sex with him at some point! LOL

[BrownSugar]

I'm going to have to bite that. Sweatbox. I have one of those for sure.
Uh...where ya been anyway?!? You haven't dropped by to see a sistah in a minute!